Ultra Sounds and Caring

I know you all just clicked to see if I had an announcement?  I was just reading over at Growing Towards a Dream. She's dreaming lots these days, and I'm sure dreaming of the wonderful future for her  family.  It's exciting to read about her newest dream. (go read, remember to come back please). So I was reading nad she was talking about her latest u/s and rather than clog up her comments section? I came here.
My governmentfunded/hubbie's insurance experience was just as rude for me when I had #3. I had Mr almost 12 and Mr9  in the USA. They bend  over backwards to make the Mom-to-be feel like a Queen good or bad. I had a u/s for #1 at 13wks because I was unsure if I was going to get to the end of the pregnancy. I had spotting, and this being my first time around I was nervous. The tech that looked at the screen and did all the measurements and investigations was excellent. He allowed a non family member to stay with me from beginning to end. Hubbie was at work and couldn't come home, newish hire and all. My OB also had me scheduled for another u/s at 20wks to insure I was NOT having Twins (they run in my family) and growing was going according to plans. I was measuring 2wks ahead, so I had another u/s at 31wks and then again at 33wks when I started spotting. Mr almost 12 showed up at 35wks. More U/S followed, to find out why he showed up early, and after he was born and at 10wks old we had another u/s experience when they checked on his brain for a cyst. All these experiences came with excellent nurses and Doctors and techs that new this was our pride and joy.
Come child #2 with all my worries about another preemie, the techs and Doctors and nurses were so comforting for every u/s I had. There were less u/s because they weren't necessary, but each one was a day of care and hope and hand holding. During both of the older boys ultrasounds it was my husband that told me we were having a boy. The techs confirmed it as he told me and there was no guessing and lots of time to prepare for my life with boys.
Then I get back to Canada?Within a year of moving here I became pregnant with Mr6.  You would think I'd asked them to carry the baby themselves when I asked simple to the point questions? My husband (yes husband) wasn't allowed in the room until the tech did measurements. WTF? What if she didn't see a baby? What if she saw 2 right away? What if all things weren't as they should be? I had no one there to be "my" Support. The next WTF? they were not allowed. Did you read that? Allowed to tell me the sex of my child. MY child? It doesn't make sense. I didn't want "regulations" explained. They even went so far as to avoid the area that my husband would recognise? Yes almost 7yrs later? I'm still pissed.

Dear Canada remember to put the care in healthCARE. I know that ultrasound techs see babies constantly on their screens but for a Mom to be? its the glimpse of just what's going on in there that they need to keep them comforted during their wait.
If something is wrong? Tell Mom that, find a way to talk to her, find a doctor or a nurse that has the skills or the time that day.   I know your job isn't easy. I know that some days you don't have the words, and you have your own life going on. I know you need to not take your work home with you? but you know what else? These are the parts of the job that you signed up for, it's part of the careers you chose. You didn't choose bad endings, and you didn't choose cranky patients, but you did choose to learn the skills that keep Moms hoping beyond Hope that their wishes and dreams will continue, or how to live past what wasn't there. Provinces? Let Techs Be Caring and Compassionate and the skills to give their patients exactly what they need. Canada Give Canadians more Funding so they can continue to learn and grow in this most amazing profession.